Hello, I am a 30 year old mother of two..... My first kiss was with a girl and I've been back and forth between men and women over the years being labeled as a bisexual.... I was chastised and bullied being called a Lesbian which I am now proud to say I am. Currently, I am seperating from my husband and have reconnected with a past love of mine and can't wait to start my life with her. It is a struggle and I'm reaching out to anyone who may have go e through a similar situation....even though my husband knew of my past he is taking it really hard and I of course feel awful about it; not about being a Lesbian, but because he is hurting and because I am pursuing this other relationship while we are going through the divorce. People keep giving me their opinions about how I should go about things for the kids sake. While I really want to move right on in with my love and start our lives, I am thinking a transitional period of time or the kids is important so am considering being on our own for almost a year and then introducing the new relationship so until then it would be long distance. I am so torn any suggestions? Thanks for reading an for your help.
Well it kind of depends on how old your kids are. I think if they're over 18 and don't live with you, it shouldn't matter. I'm assuming they're not though, so maybe ask them if they are okay with it and get their feedback?
When my parents divorced they simply explained it as they weren't in love anymore, which I grew to learn as a positive thing. I honestly think it allowed me to accept that fact relationships do sometimes end and that you can remain friends after. As for explaining homosexuality to your children, when/how you do this is up to you. I totally believe in upfront honesty and just telling them you are in love with a woman, answer any questions they have with patience and just let them take their time in processing the information. Sometimes they may react poorly but will eventually warm up. Other times they'll just accept it. Good luck to you (: