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|This past March I have had to endure a crapload of homophobia and ignorance. It's making me depressed and occasionally it makes me doubt myself. I won't say the exact wording of what I've heard (it would be very triggering to most) but people are basically saying that heterosexual marriage is the "right" marriage and that the "sancity" of it needs to be "protected". UGH.
My two bffs (who happen to be conservative Christian and both sisters) and I have had some convos lately concerning gay marriage. I don't bring up my beliefs or my orientation and I hate that, because it feels like I'm almost lying to them. But I'm still in the biromantic/questioning area.....
How can I ignore their words so I won't be so depressed?
|I think it is important for you to try and get around people who think more like you. If you stay surrounded by conservative right wing thinkers they are going to continually try to manipulate you and try to put "the fear of God" into you.
It is important that you understand that you are a beautiful person whom God created and he created you with Gay dna! There is nothing wrong with you and you must stay confident and strong within yourself.
If you can try to get to an lgbt support center so that you can be around others that would be really helpful. It is nice to talk with others on line - but I think it helps to try and also surround yourself more and more in your daily life with folks who are more like you.
If you are just stuck and you have to be around these conservative, religious crazies, I think you should find the strength to tell them you have already heard what they have to say, they have a right to feel the way that they do, but that you do not agree with them and you are no longer interested in hearing it - and, in fact, will no longer listen to it. If they start up - just walk away. It is like training a dog not to lick you. Every time the dog licks you, you put you hand up so it can't get to it. Eventually the dog will stop licking you so that you will keep your hand down and pet him. We all have to train the people around us to be the way we want them to be. Seriously - just refuse to listen to their bs!
Do not get depressed! The gay community is a loving and fun community and you have alot to look forward to. Whether it is just being out and having fun or eventually marrying and having kids - it is all possible!
They are wrong. Just don't give them the time of day.