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lilone92

 

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How to get over ex? We were together almost two years and I don't know how to get over her. She recently was honest with me about everything and her feelings. I haven't cried like I did before when I knew we were over. But I can not sleep at night, hard for me to eat, and I miss her a lot we talked everyday all day to not at all. This is really difficult because I am always tempted to text her and I have slipped up before. I just want to let go and move on.

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Oh, wow, I feel for you.  A broken heart is so tough and it feels like it will never go away.  It will go away though.  I think you need to feel the pain for a while and then, yep, start forcing yourself to get out there and living life again.  When my first girlfriend left me I was devastated.  It didn't take me long to realize that I could (and was doing) much better than her.  Everything happens for a reason.....

Once when I was going through what you are going through, someone said to me that the reason I'm feeling so much pain is because I was open to love and lucky enough to have made a deep connection with someone.  I got to experience that person in a deep way and even though it was temporary, it was a cherished moment in life that I was lucky to have. 

Not everything is permanent in life - we are a constantly changing universe.  Feel the pain you need to, then move on.  Whatever you do, don't close off to the world and love cause one day the person you fall in love with will hang on and never let go. 

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You're right but its extremely hard. I am constantly looking at my phone and hoping I get a message from her. How do I cope?

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You cope by forcing yourself to get out and by treating yourself well.  Sometimes we just have to reason things out and try to let logic enter the picture.  Will feeling tortured bring her back?  No.  It won't.  So - logic says that you need to move on.  Get out there, treat yourself well, exercise, look good and show her what she is missing. 

I don't mean to diminish what you are going through because we've all been there and it is tough.  Sometimes we just have to cry and eat junk food and isolate for a while.  But, it will eventually be up to you to grab yourself by the bootstrings and take control of your happiness. 

Believe me, there will be others .....  Go for a walk today

If you can afford it and know where to find a lesbian friendly lesbian (preferrably she is a lesbian herself), it couldn't hurt to see a therapist.  They will help you process your feelings and move beyond them.


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