I moved to San Francisco to "come out" when I was in my twenties. I felt so excited to be a part of a wonderful group of womyn who taught me how to be independent and strong! It felt so good to not have to fake being like others: Fake being straight; fake having the same interests as the straight community. Ahhh, I remember my first potluck! I also had a business with a loyal lesbian client list. It was great to be in-demand (for lack of a better term) because of being a lesbian. I'm back in the midwest so its unfortunately not the same. Maybe some day lesbians will feel free enough in all areas of the world to bond together and be themselves!
So, the postive is the feeling of being a part of the lesbian community. I guess the issue would be - the community is not necessarily easy to find outside of the hubs. I have found that there are still issues of lesbians hiding who they are - so much so that they will not reach out and connect to other lesbians.
No, lesbians are not praised at all. Although I agree that they are more accepted in some ways and that less violence falls upon them. Believe me, I've been hated immediately upon someone learning I'm a lesbian - before they have a clue who I really am.