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howdy everyone, i'm new to the forum, how is everyone?

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i'm an 18 year old Bi guy, and i'm looking for some help dealing with stuff

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Welcome to the forum.  How can we help?  What are you dealing with?

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i've just been dealing with kids being ignorant kids, threatening me, pushing me, tripping me. it's nothing big.

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@abpositive, I am happy that you think the things like you being pushed and tripped are just minor things 'cause that means you are a strong person. However, I am a bit worried that you would still ignore these when they escalate. Please know that it is never right to physically harm or be harmed by anyone. :):cool:

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When I was young I was treated in a similar way in high school.  Not cause I was gay (I hadn't figured that out yet) but because I was a cheerleader.  I was pushed into the lockers, threatened to be beaten up on my way home, etc.  So, I know a little bit of how that feels.  It causes an insecurity and a little bit of a fear of people.

Just know that you are a beautiful person and that the people who are messing with you are the ones with major character flaws.  Is there an lgbt support group at your school?  If so, that would be an excellent way to increase your support and keep you from feeling isolated.  If there isn't one - maybe you can start one!  A good way to take the power! 

Hmmm, we should come up with a fun, harmless, silent prank that you can do for a laugh - nothing dangerous or violent - just silly hmmmmm - and done in a well thought out way so it is never traced back to you  :) .....  What can I say, I have a devious side

any suggestions?

On the serious side, you should tell someone  -  what are you parents and the school authorities like? 

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i don't really have anyone close to me i can talk to, there's this one guy i can talk to. i'll be starting college in 6 days, i'll find out if there is a support group then

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College should be much better!  So many of them do have lgbt support groups.  If not at your college perhaps in the surrounding community.  Not only will they be supportive but also alot of fun!  The lgbt community is a strong, supportive family to each other. 

There are quite a few bi people about the same age as you on this site.  You might try reading through the posts and finding some of them.  You can have private conversationa even through pm. 

Have you picked a major yet in College or experimenting around to see what interests you?

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i'm studying theatre, it's a community college. the closest one in the community is in DC, i live about an hour away

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Studying Theatre - say no more.  I think you will find plenty of like-minded friends there! 

In the meantime, if you are feeling really bad - driving an hour to DC may be worth it to connect with a support group. 

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You may have heard this over and over and over, "it's not you, it's them". But it is sincerely true. I ask you this, if you don't like someone, do you immediately push them around? I bet you don't because you are polite, respectful, and decent. They aren't, that one I can bet my arm on. ;):cool:

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We haven't heard from you in a while.  How is it going?  Are you in college by now?  Away from immature bullies?


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