Hello all! I am new to the forum (just registered) and am hoping someone can give me some advice. I have just had the wits scared out of me by someone saying a sudden change in sexual orientation is probably caused by a brain tumor and even showed me a webpage (somewhere on nimh.gov) backing it up.
I am 45 yrs old, male, married with 3 kids and have considered myself beyond doubt straight all my life. I do remember as a young teen having fantasies about men but that was sort of random because it wasn't a lasting thing. Now, however, I find myself incredibly attracted to transexual women and also fantasizing heavily about men. So much so that it has overshadowed my attraction to women. That's not to say I'm not attracted to women at all because I am, but my fantasies are almost totally dominated by thoughts of being with either a transexual or a man. These fantasies are so strong that I have even considered trying to explore them with one of my gay friends. But I don't want to cheat on my wife.
So I guess my question would be is it possible to have such a drastic (or sudden) change in fantasies/orientation and it NOT be a brain tumor? I'm not afraid of the fantasies but I am terrified now that there is the thought of a brain tumor.
There may be a lot of things to consider with the change of preference. Some may say that they did because they want a new atmosphere or maybe just a late 'bloomer' or something. I'm not a doctor but it is kinda far fetch, but we need to keep in mind that in this day and age, almost anything is possible, like some people attest that brain surgery could change the language a person speaks. Try reading this one though: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality
I super promise that a brain tumour is not required for you to have a sudden change in sexual orientation. If you're really concerned, see a doctor, but if all you have to go on is that suddenly for the first time in years you're interested in being involved with someone with a penis, that doesn't sound like a brain tumour to me. It sounds like being a human being. Support groups are full of people who didn't come out until middle age or older, many of whom were surprised when these fantasies and attractions surfaced or resurfaced for the first time in many years. Agreed that you should read up on pansexuality, too.
My guess is that the webpage backing up what that person said was actually talking about the fact that this is one of many, many things that can possibly happen as a result of a brain tumour. "If you have a brain tumour, this may happen" is not at all the same thing as "If this happens, you have a brain tumour". ("If P, then sometimes Q" ≠ "If Q, then P".)
(Tangent - transsexual has two S's, and I think you mean Trans women specifically. )
Disclaimer as always: I am not a medical professional.
Thanks so much for the reassurance! I can't tell you how much it means. I never even considered something as horrible as a brain tumor until that was presented to me. It's good to know that it doesn't mean anything like that. Before that doom-and-gloom scenario was thrown in my face I just thought my change in desires/fantasies were something that I had maybe repressed for years and was only now mature enough to actually face them.
I really appreciate the responses and reassurance!