I’m new to this forum. My concern is all about my future. I’m a 24 years old lesbian and now in a search for the right partner. My parents are not allowing me to marry a girl. They are insisting me to get married to a man. But you know, I don’t have any feelings towards men. From my childhood itself, I loved to date with girls and even I had sex with a girl during my college days. She was my classmate. We were best friends and more than that. We had a chemistry with each other and some intense looks of her told us that she is more than a friend to me. Everything happened unexpectedly, it took us some time to digest that incident, but both of us enjoyed it. We had a great time. After studies, she got married to a man as per the decision of her parents. I don’t know whether she is happy with him, but I can’t even think a life with a man. So I’m ending up to get married to a girl I hope my parents will get convinced soon. I’m trying my best for that. The real problem is, it is very hard to find a girl with the same feelings and thoughts of mine. It will be awkward when I ask some girl that “Are you interested in me” or “Will you marry me”. So I’m planning to seek the help of a lesbian matchmaking service for getting the best match for me. Is it a right decision? What are the things that should be taken care while choosing a partner with the help of such services? How could I know that a girl suits me? I’m searching for a girl like my best friend. Even though she is married, still I have feelings for her. Can anyone give some tips to choose the right partner for me? Thank you in advance.
Hi. Sorry to hear that your parents are not supporting you by allowing you to be who you are. At some point they will need to understand that being gay isn't a choice, rather something you are born with. It is strong within us and and can not be changed by simply deciding to be with the opposite sex.
Do you have an lgbt support center anywhere near you that you are able to get to? there are sites that have lists of lgbt support centers. I believe there is one listed somewhere on this site too. LGBT support centers/organizations are a great way to meet like minded people that can be friends, as well as perhaps a partner. The lgbt community offers great support.