I'm the proud father of a trans teen who is off to college. he/she (i'm still trying toget it straight, no pun intended) is a fantastic kid who came out openly to us after a few years of trying to categorize himself. I missed many years, due to work and maybe because of who I am. I'm a retired cop, a biker, and politically conservative. But Adam has opened my eyes and I am completely accepting of him. He has done a lot of work and self sacrifice for the LGBT community. The reason I joined is to find ways for making up for lost time. I love him unconditionally. I almost lost him when he was still Kate and the young age of 13. He has blossomed into a magnificent adult who admittedly is a better person than I. I'm pretty sure this isn't the right place to put this into these words, but I had to write it cathartically. Every time I try to have dialog with him I sound like an idiot. I love him and wish we had better communication so he would know that.
Your post is heartwarming and I am so glad that your transgendered child has a father who cares. If you want a greater understanding you can always read through the posts on this site. There are many transgendered people who talk about what they are going through. Keep trying and you will eventually have the communication you are hoping for.