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Okay. I used to identify as bisexual but as I've been reading more my eyes have been open to a much wider selection of options to define myself. I'm biologicaly female. I don't really prefer to express myself as a male or female, as in I couldn't care either way but my parents dress me more feminine(I'm 16 it's just what they buy.). I like how I feel when I dress more boy-ish but I don't really feel comfortable presenting myself like that in public just because of how people would react. Sometimes I like being girly... I just don't know how to explain it. Everyone calls me a "tomboy" but I think it's more than that. I Guess what I'm trying to ask here is if someone could help me in finding a definition for my gender because I guess female doesn't exactly cut it but at the same time I don't know what else to say about myself. ANY HELP AT ALL WOULD BE APPRECIATED.

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Joined: 2015-01-08
Posts: 9
Hey basshaze,

I'm going through the same thing right now. It's been frustrating trying to figure out exactly how I identify. Usually, people tell me "don't try to put a label on yourself, just be you." Even so, it can be aggravating not to know. Initially, I identified as bisexual, but after about 6 months I started tentatively saying I was lesbian. I realized I was much more interested in girls and noticed them more often. I just didn't connect with guys the same. Every now and then, I meet a guy who's pretty cool, but usually it's just girls. Really, you just gotta get a feel for what's right for you. What feels natural? What feels right?

As for the dress, I feel pretty much the same as you too. Some days, I feel girly, but usually I feel more like myself and more comfortable dressing in guys's clothes. Also, I understand about feeling self conscious with dressing more masculine in public. You should just do what you feel ready for. But ultimately, I say, be yourself. Sometimes it can be hard to be exactly who you want for fear of being judged, but it can also be exhilerating and fulfilling. Like I said though, just do what you're ready for.

An inquisitive person


Joined: 2015-05-14
Posts: 3
Hey :) ,

I'm currently in a similar predicament regarding my gender. The term I've come across that seems most appealing for myself is agender (i.e no gender or gender-neutral), perhaps this is the identification you may feel more comfortable/satisfied with :) ?

- J

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