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 Posted: 2010-08-22 06:01 am
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Hi.  I am new here.  I am a 27 yr old mother of one.  I am very confused about my sexual orientation.  For a long time I have thought that I might be bisexual.  I have never had any sexual interaction with a woman before, but I have had fantasies and dreams about doing so.  I would love to talk with others here and hopefully figure myself out.  thanks for taking the time to read this.

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 Posted: 2010-08-23 06:35 am
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Hi and thanks for joining our community. First off, let me start by saying that whether you eventually identify as straight, bi or lesbian - all three choices are equally healthy and normal. Try to have a light attitude with it, experiment when it feels safe and comfortable and I think you will know pretty quickly where your orientation lies. It comes naturally.

As for me, when I was in my early twenties, I started feeling attracted to my girlfriends and started have fantasies and dreams of women as well. The feelings became quite strong and couldn't be ignored. I ended up moving to San Francisco and had one heck of a good time coming out and becoming comfortable within my sexuality. I later realized that I had been feeling attracted to my girlfriends as early as my junior and senior years at school.

Most importantly - understand that this is not a bad or negative thing. Stay open to yourself, listen to yourself and you will know without a doubt!

Everyone's story is different. Let your's unfold! ;)

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 Posted: 2010-08-24 12:18 am
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Hi. Thanks for replying to my post. Being ok with whatever my sexuality is is the easy part, lol. I have had a few friends that are gay/lesbian/bi....and I am very comfortable around them. My main problem is figuring out if I am bi or not or what, lol. I do have one friend right now that is bi, and I have been trying to get up the nerve to talk with her about it all and see what input she can give me on the situation. One of the hardest parts of it all is going to be coming out to friends if I am. My 2 best friends are not really comfortable with the idea of gays/lesbians....so I am really afraid of how they will react. My main concern is I don't want them to feel weird around me because of it. (they are both girls)

I definitely feel that I could love a woman like a man, my main thing is the sex part of it, lol. I am not sure about messing around with a woman down there, lol. I don't like the messiness/wetness of it all, lol. I'm kind of like that with men too though. I don't mine touching them n stuff down there, but I don't like the cum on me at all. It's gross to me. I also can't stand giving head n think even a man eating a girl out is kinda gross (even though it feels good). So maybe im just the same way with both equally. I have had feelings for a girl I used to work with and kinda have feelings for one of my best friends.....who unfortunately is totally straight.

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 Posted: 2010-08-24 05:35 am
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well, I guess you really won't know if you truly enjoy it or not until you have tried it a couple times.

As far as friends getting upset or not understanding - you can't control what they think.  You can only be true to yourself - that is where happiness comes from.  If they don't accept you - then they aren't really friends.....

you might be trying to think out something that you have to just jump in and try!  Have fun!

You might want to post in the Bisexual subsection below as well.  I know it is sort of empty but someone might come along - you never know....

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