|View single post by marshmallow|
|Posted: 2011-06-15 04:48 am||
|1 - I think the media is beginning to portray gays and lesbians in a more positive light. A huge improvement over the past portrayals of gays and lesbians as psychotics and either dyke butch women or overly nelly men.
2 - Society is coming around - depending on where you live. When I lived and came out in SF, a good percentage of the people there were very at home with the lgbt community and were very accepting. Then when I moved to KY for a short time, it felt like I moved back in a time warp - where most people glared at me and judged me for simply being gay without knowing me. I'm now in Cleveland where it is somewhere in between the two. I do see, with the younger generation, a broader acceptance of the lgbt community - where being gay or lesbian is less of an issue. Sorta of a "whatever - lets move on" type of attitude and I like it. However, all that being said - I guess it takes a truly enlightened person to not think of a gay man as not very strong and a lesbian as a masculine woman. With that comes a somewhat negative attitude - so they do not necessarily think we are less than as individuals, yet there is still a stigma. So, it is OK for someone else's kid to be gay but then they do not really want their own kid to be gay. Hope I made my point clear here....
3 - I would say it is still quite hard for teachers to be openly gay. But, depending on where you are in the country, this varies widely.
4 - I absolutely feel as if I would be more accepted if I were not gay in most of the country. For example, in Cleveland, if I were to move into a community, on a street, I would tend to stay more to myself because I do not want to risk that a homophobe is my neighbor. Now, in SF - it really didn't matter at all. Not one bit.
5 - I have never been depressed over my sexuality. When I started figuring out I was gay, I moved to SF and came out. It was all good times and I loved every minute of it. I love who I am and see anybody's negativity toward me as their character flaw as opposed to my own. I am just happy that I discovered who I am.
6 - I have never considered suicide.
7 - I am usually very comfortable with being open about my sexual orientation. More and more often I refer to my wife as my wife (I'm lesbian). However, I am aware of the existing homophobia in the world and at times just decide to lay low in order to avoid the confrontation.
8 - Oh my gosh, there are so many places the lgbt community are not welcome! But who of us are welcome everywhere, right? There are "isms" everywhere. Racism, Sexism, etc.
9 - I see religion as one of the establishments that is the biggest enemy of the lgbt community. I gave up on organized religion many years ago when I heard their hateful words toward me. Then I moved to KY and ran into lots of "Christians" and really began to despite organized religion even more. The last time I stepped foot in a church was to attend a catholic memorial service for my cousin who died. (it was a regular mass where they gave mention to the deceased - and named my cousin). In the priest's sermon he said "well, we've won. We've voted out the gay's right to marriage" and the congregation stood up and applauded. My wife and I stood there and whispered to each other "we're apparently standing in the enemy's camp." I do realize there are gay friend churches but I have a bad taste in my mouth. I lean toward sprituality as opposed to organized religion.
10 - I believe homophobic slurs and outright gay/lesbian hatred is the last fully accepted "ism". Even our Presidents will be sure to limit our right to full marriage. We're fighting for every last drop of freedom.
11 - It is a proven fact that sexual orientation is a direct result of DNA- therefore it is not a choice. All people are born with gay and straight genes - and it is unique to each one of us as to how much of each gene we are born with. That is why we have gay, straight and bisexual people. It all depends how many gay or straight genes we are born with. IT IS A SCIENTIFIC FACT!