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 Posted: 2015-03-07 06:21 pm
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Hi, Dave.

I'm a gay guy and I have been suck since I was 8. I was always attracted to males and had no interest in women. I never wanted to be a girl/woman myself. Don't get me wrong, I don't think that female gender is inferior or something but I love being a guy. I am a man, and I like being with man.

All my life I was out of sports, more interested in Broadway shows, more understanding female psychology than male. Though with years I start to understand men as well because I enter into relationship with them.

I can't imagine my life if I were a girl. From my childhood I was always happy with my gender, loved being a boy. If I were born as a female there is a very high possibility that I would have wanted to change my gender. So I do understand those who want to change their gender.

BTW gender identity disorder is decided by a psychiatrist prior doing any sex changes.

And if we speak about stereotypes than we should say that orientation and gender identification are absolutely different things. Orientation is about who you want to be with, whereas gender identification is all about who you want to be yourself. Being feminine doesn't mean being gay, trasvestile or transgender. Those are different things. Your boy (he is only 4 and you have no idea what can happen) may be feminine (if it's the case), but be straight or gay. May have interest in wearing female cloths (transvestite) regardless of his orientation. And there is a possibility of being transgender (regardless of orientation and clothing choice).

Overall I think you have to understand that transgender is not about the love towards somebody. It's all about how do we want to see us to be able to accept ourselves and love ourselves.

And I think you are looking into matters too early. He's only 4. He has no idea who he wants to be, who he want to be with or anything. And I think he has made his statement already: that he is a boy!

And I want to thank you for being such a great parent. I wish more people could be understanding and looking for answers where they don't know the answers. Wish you all the luck with parenting.

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