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|How do you feel romantically towards men and women? If you're sexually attracted to both men and women, but not emotionally attracted to both, you could be homoromantic bisexual or heteroromantic bisexual. You mentioned you're interested in transgender individuals too, though, so possibly pansexual or polysexual? Labels aren't really that important, but sometimes it's comforting to have a word that generally describes your feelings and attractions. Sounds like you're just figuring yourself out, which can take some time. Don't try to pin anything specific down on how you identify right now. Just explore yourself as a person and get to know who you are. You said you've been dating the same girl since you were 13. That's a long time. Sounds like you may not have had many opportunities to date other guys, girls, gender fluid individuals, etc. and find out what you like and don't like in different relationships. Your girlfriend sounds like a pretty nice, good person, but it may be awhile until you know how you feel about your sexuality. Her wanting to know ASAP whether you're gay or not may not be possible, as discovering one's sexuality can take years sometimes. What you decided to do with your current relationship is up to the two of you, but exploring sexuality can often put a strain on romantic relationships and sometimes friendships (it was hard for one of my friends to deal with my attraction to women). If they're mature, open-minded, and compassionate, a lot of friends can help you right through it and provide support. Try to find a support group to have your back and be there for you during this time (and really throughout life! We all need support! ) It can be really comforting to know someone is there for you to talk to or just be with.
Best of luck and welcome to the community