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 Posted: 2013-06-20 03:57 pm
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I think the last statement you made is correct.  You are pushing yourself into something you don't want to do. 

Don't worry about putting a label on yourself and just spend time with/date people who feel good to you.  If they are causing you to panic then avoid it because you are trying to force yourself to do something you do not want to do.  Unless, of course, you are feeling more of a nervous stomach because you are totally crushing on someone ;)

I have to say that I do not agree with your mom's statement that you don't want to date men because of some power issue.  There are plenty of strong willed women out there who are attracted to men (Pink for example)!  The idea that lesbians are afraid of getting close to men is an antiquated notion and makes no sense.  People are born with an attraction to the same sex, the opposite sex or a little of both - it is in our DNA and we all figure that out at some point.  However, nobody ever became a lesbian because they are scared of men...... seriously.  Either you feel a drive to have intimate contact with a woman or not.

Now, if you said that you really do not like women sexually and they turn you off then I would wonder why you were dating them.  But, you didn't mention that.

Don't worry about all this so much.  Just live life and connect with those that it feels natural to connect with.  Forget the labels. 

What was the inititial draw for you to date this boy in the first place?

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