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 Posted: 2013-02-11 04:40 pm
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Well, of course you are right - it is almost common knowledge that bisexuality exists and that all people have a certain amount of gay and straight dna and what determines a person's sexual orientation is the amount of each you happened to be born with.  Visualize a sliding scale with gay on one side, straight on the other and bisexual in the middle.  Depending on how much of gay and straight dna you were born with will determine where your sexual orientation rests on the sliding scale. 

So many parents have to travel their own path toward acceptance of bisexual, gay, lesbian or transgendered kids.  It is new to them and they have to wrap their heads around it.  The important thing is for you to keep being who you are, don't change for your father and he will eventually understand that you mean what you say.  You can always contact PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) and they will have literature that will explain to him that it is a scientific fact that a variety of sexual orientations exists and it is really only disputed by religious beliefs.

I still struggle with letting people have their own opinions.  That is a tough one.  I'm the most successful with it when I focus on myself and being confident in my beliefs.  When I am centered, focused and confident in myself and my beliefs then it isn't as important to me to change other people's minds. 

Figuring out ones own sexual orientation can be tough at first.  But it quickly turns fun (well, it did for me anyway!  ;)).  Just go with your natural instinct and what feels right inside.  Don't be in a rush to get it all figured out and to label yourself.  Be open to opportunities and experimentation as it comes your way and slowly you will know what is right for you.  Then you can worry about letting others know about it.  Let your opportunities come naturally for better experiences.  The first time I kissed a woman I knew I was lesbian.  It was mostly exciting and a little confusing.  I had moved to SF to give myself the freedom to explore and it reall paid off for me.  I developed confidence in my lesbian orientation because I was around so much positive energy in SF.

Know that whatever you decide, it is perfectly fine and natural.  Remain confident and proud of yourself.

Keep us posted!  Go forth and conquer!  :

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