I'm a senior in high school and I recently found out I like men. I always thought I was straight, until my stomach flipped and my heart fluttered when I was with one of my friends. I knew he was gay so I thought I had a chance. I ended up telling some of my closest friends because I needed an outlet and all of them showed support for me and told me to tell him. I did and he basically said "Sorry, but no." I didn't get over him for a while. Then, the same thing happened with another one of my friends. I told him, and he said "I'm flattered, but I don't see you in that light" I got over that a little faster.
I went to visit a college and I met two other freshman. A guy and a girl. The girl was beautiful, quirky, funny, and I felt so comfortable with her. The guy was almost identical and I felt something for him and not the girl. That was when I decided I had to be gay.
This realization was a little tough, though. I live in a conservative, strongly Christian family. My parents tolerate gays, but were disgusted when they saw a gay couple kissing on a TV show. If they ever find out, there will be hell to pay. I want to wait until after I move out so I don't have to put up with their yelling. They seem to think that it's a choice and I've found it's not always a choice. This has been so stressful for me.
Unfortunately a big percentage of us have all gone through the same thing. Just when we need our families the most - they aren't there for us. That is why it is so important to establish another support system for yourself ASAP. If you've been reading through the posts you'll see that I've suggested LGBT support groups and communities to help you with what you're going through. Don't worry about coming out to your family until you feel strong and centered - that way you can handle what they throw at you. Always remember that there is nothing wrong with you and the burden to change their ways falls on the shoulders of your conservative family.
That being said, they just might turn around - even though it takes some time. My family totally accepts my wife (we got married in Canada) now.
They might not understand, but my friend seems to think that they will try. They might, but that could be hoping for too much. They tolerate gays, but their only son going gay? That would tear them apart.
It just may tear them apart at first - but time heals all - especially when love is involved. All of you will get through it and come out the other side happy and wondering what all the fuss was about.
My parents were very homophobic. My father refused to touch me for two years after I came out. That is all over now. They have accepted my wife/lover as their own daughter and come to the defense of the lgbt community whenever one of their friends start throwing out homophobic comments.
Have faith that you will all work through this - in the end a positive will come from this because they will know and understand you in a way that would have been impossible if they hadn't gotten to know (and accept) the real you.