I'm in a gay relationship since I was younger. But I'm still in the closet as I don't know how to come out, or if I even have to. I guess I'm still seeking answers to my questions-from myself. Meantime, any advice is welcome. Thanks...
I guess the big picture answer is - yes, you will eventually have to come out because it is too difficult of a life to live a lie. That being said, there is no rush. If you are still discovering who you are there is no need to hurry up and throw a label on yourself and share it with the world! Take your time, explore - and when you feel comfortable and confident with who you are, then share it. Start with those who seem the safest and go from there. Feelling confident in yourself is important because there is a chance that someone you tell may give you grief and you must be in a place where you can stand tall and realize that it is their character flaw and not your's.
Don't be afraid to come out and be yourself. The ones who truly love you will accept you. Forget about the ones that don't, because they're not worth your time. Coming out will relieve a lot of stress on your relationship and you won't have to hide anymore.
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I came across an article in the Guardian in which there are testimonies of students who lost the support of their parents for coming out as a gay or a lesbian.
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There are common myths which need to be debunked. Most prominent are that people believe that gay and lesbian people are promiscuous.
Similarly, In same-sex relationships, one partner is the “man” and the other partner is the “woman”.
The basis for all these myths is rooted in sexist ideas and beliefs.