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 Posted: 2013-03-24 03:00 pm
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Haku

 

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I just registered myself here, so I thought I'd go and say hi here first. So, uhm... Hi. :)

I'm Haku (21 years old) and I've come here because my boyfriend told me to have a look for LGBT forums, since I'm kind of confused about my gender. I've been born female, still am physically, only mentally I feel that I am a guy, a girl, both and ungendered. It kind of shifts here and there, so every day is different.

My hobbies are drawing, listening to music (mostly classical music), playing the piano and watching films. Oh, and I'm a great Pokémon fan. At the moment I play Pokémon White intensively. (If you want to see my drawings, they're on my website http://www.hakuwolf.com )

I hope to find some people here that maybe know this same feeling and hear what they did/do about it, because I don't really know what to do. I want to order a breast-binder soon and cut off my hair, so I can look more male at days I feel like it. I'm not sure what to call myself anymore, though, and what I want other people to address me with, so I hope to find that out here as well.

Besides all that I just want to meet new people and have nice conversations. Plus maybe finding a good way to find out what my sexual preference is. I *think* I might be bi-sexual, but then again, it might be something different.

Anyways, I think that's all I can tell about myself, hope it's not too big of a wall of text.

Cheers!

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 Posted: 2013-03-25 10:49 pm
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Hey man. This is actually not a good place at all to find Trans folks, but there are loads of excellent places to go. http://reddit.com/r/ftm and http://reddit.com/r/asktransgender are excellent places to start. Facebook groups like ftm, FTM Transsexuals Group, and FTM YouTube will help you a ton. (Yes, they're all non-binary- and questioning-people-friendly, and no, groups you're in don't show up anywhere on your Facebook profile.) And Google+, now that it has communities (groups), has FTM Transgender (yes, it's private and open to questioning and non-binary folks).

When googling for stuff, do yourself a huge favour and don't google for LGBT, nor for 'transgender'. Google for 'ftm transgender' instead. It'll save you a lot of wasted time by getting you straight to stuff that's more relevant. :)

I strongly recommend getting a Livejournal at http://www.livejournal.com/create.bml . It's fine if you don't want to keep an online journal. You don't have to post in your personal journal. The point is the communities; that's where the support and people to talk to are, quite a bit more than here. Just reading the communities is hugely helpful; no one will pressure you to post or to share private info. See http://transgender.livejournal.com/1133801.html  for LJ communities that may help you. I recommend the ftm, transcanada, and transgender communities in particular, but more is better. Go to the userinfo (profile) page of any community and click the link at the top right of the profile, where it says Join. And spend a lot of time at http://ftm.livejournal.com/tag/ .

Links for you - take your time going through them! The point is that you have a load of them so you can go through them at whatever pace you want, and in whatever order you want, and not have to stop to look for more for quite a while. Getting through them is not a race, and going through them slowly is probably a better idea. :)  Go through them in whatever order you want; I just have them listed by URL length so they're easier to read. I've put a few in bold that I think will be especially helpful for you.

* http://imatyfa.org/
* http://tranifesto.org/
* http://transboys.info/
* http://trueselves.com/
* http://transfamily.org/
* http://transbucket.com/
* http://camparanutiq.org/
* http://transkidspurplerainbow.org/
* http://t-vox.org/ - resource/info central
* http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=266
* http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Online_Support
* http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Support_groups
* http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Category:Resources
* http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_by_region
* http://safeschoolscoalition.org/whydontyoutellthem.pdf
* http://ftmichael.transboys.info/yayforqueers.html - come chat!
* http://trans-health.org/ - go if you can! It's free and it's amazing.
* http://groups.yahoo.com/group/teentransman/ - for Trans guys 25 and under
* http://youtube.com/ftmkickstart - keep checking back because new ones are added regularly
* http://youtube.com/genderqueerchat - keep checking back because new ones are added regularly
* http://youtube.com/ftmtranstastic - keep checking back because new ones are added regularly
* http://youtube.com/watch?v=IxzKlPVceWg - an In the Life episode from spring 2012 about Trans kids and teens
* http://youtube.com/watch?v=gukzQ5eLrVc - the Trans Enough Project. An inspiring and empowering video.

Must-reads if you can get hold of them:
* Luna by Julie Anne Peters (YA fiction)
* Parrotfish by Ellen Wittlinger (YA fiction)
* Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green
* The Transgender Child by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper
* Trans Forming Families, edited by Mary Boenke (third edition, 2008)
* Just Add Hormones by Matt Kailey, author of the above-mentioned Tranifesto
* The Our Trans Children leaflet (sixth edition) - available from PFLAG's Transgender Network for $2 US, or you can save and print it yourself for free.  The booklet is their only source of revenue, so if you can pay for it, please do!
* TransGeneration (Ignore what Lucas says in the first episode about hormones being "very dangerous" - they're not, not if you get them through a competent doctor and have regular - which usually means annual - bloodwork, and that was irresponsible of him to say.)
(The books can be ordered on Amazon or you can get the ISBNs from Amazon and bring them to any bookshop to order them. The DVD can be ordered on Amazon also, as you see from the link.)

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 Posted: 2013-03-29 07:40 pm
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Haku

 

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Ohwauw! Those are lots of links. Thank you so much for helping me out. I'll have a look at them soon, then. :) Wonderful. I suppose my boyfriend wasn't too helpful with his good-meant tip then. Anyways, I'm really glad you linked me to so many websites 'n stuff.

(can't seem to thank you enough)

Cheers. :)

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