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 Posted: 2013-01-08 03:28 am
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Hello!

I'd like to tell you a bit about myself and my passion for pushing the subject of equality for everyone, everywhere. Please tell me your thoughts.

When I was about six years old my mother told me about homosexuality and that it was normal. I grew up believing it was normal and didn't meet a gay person myself until I was fifteen years old. My friend David and I quickly became best friends and I never realized how awful the community could be to him.

We met through the same church and they were just awful to him and it broke my heart. They did the prayer circle thing and the the "Christ compels you" BS, which absolutely enraged me. He turned suicidal and started cutting himself and we had several sit-downs and I'd tell him that he was normal and they were the ones that were the freaks. He was little, he was Chinese, he was American, and he was normal and special. I told him I was little too, I was Irish, I was American and I was normal and special too. That if those people were going to treat him like an animal then they were the animals, not him. I fought the church for two years and it eventually got me ostracized too. My family moved away when I was 17 and I felt so bad leaving him alone because I felt like I was a source of major support.

Watching this made me cry and want to scream on multiple occasions and it's really given me a passion about promoting equality and fighting bigotry wherever I see it. I want to help. I want to change minds. I don't want to be see as a "savior of anything" I just want to help. I've joined this community forum because I want to know more. If I'm not supposed to be here please let me know. I do not wish to offend anyone. I just want to learn.

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 Posted: 2013-01-09 03:39 pm
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You might be able to find your friend again on Facebook. It's very helpful for that. It might do both of you a lot of good to reconnect. :)

Connect with your local PFLAG chapter, and find LGBT political groups in your area to connect and work with.

And do yourself a huge favour and educate yourself particularly about bi and pansexual people and issues, and about Transgender people and issues. See http://www.t-vox.org/index.php?title=Trans_101 to learn about Trans stuff. Don't skim it, read it, which means you can leave it and come back to it if you need to. Getting through it, or anything else you read, is not a race. When it tells you to take out paper and pencil, actually do it. It's tremendously helpful. Spend a lot of time with http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2012/03/the-genderbread-person-v2-0/ too.

Also, FYI, it's gay and lesbian, never 'homosexual'. Saying 'homosexual' makes you sound like someone's clueless grandma or a caricature from But I'm a Cheerleader (which I recommend, by the way - it's a hilarious film).

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 Posted: 2013-01-09 07:48 pm
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I didn't think homosexual was wrong. More like a general term and gay and lesbian was reserved for the individual sex.

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 Posted: 2013-01-11 03:28 pm
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Thanks for joining. 

You did mention you want to learn so:  on the using the term "homosexual" - alot of gay  and lesbian folks do not it because it has been used in such a negative way and so prefer to use terms such as gay or lesbian.  Within our community we take back some of the other negative words such as queer or dyke.  But, for some reason, homosexual we stay away from.  Maybe because it is so clinical sounding - and none of us relate to it - and, it is overly used in the far right religious community in an extremely negative way.

If you just read around the site I think you can learn alot.  I very much appreciate you wanting to learn and stand up for our rights.  It is commendable.

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 Posted: 2013-01-11 03:28 pm
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Thanks for joining. 

You did mention you want to learn so:  regarding using the term "homosexual" - alot of gay  and lesbian folks do not it use it because it has been used in such a negative way and so prefer to use terms such as gay or lesbian.  Within our community we take back some of the other negative words such as queer or dyke.  But, for some reason, homosexual we stay away from.  Maybe because it is so clinical sounding - and none of us relate to it - and, it is overly used in the far right religious community in an extremely negative way.

If you just read around the site I think you can learn alot.  I very much appreciate you wanting to learn and stand up for our rights.  It is commendable.  The best thing you can do is stand up and speak your mind whenever anyone spews hate.... 

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