I'm a 20 yr old female and just recently got out of a 3 year relationship with my boyfriend. One of the main reasons why I felt like I needed to end it was because I kept getting these urges to be with women. I kept pushing these feelings away and I couldn't take it anymore.
But now that I'm single, I just don't even know where to start. I've never been with a woman...I don't know who's gay/ bi so I'm unsure of how to put myself out there. None of my friends are into girls so I feel completely alone and like I have no one to turn to. I'm not exactly sure if I'm gay or bi or straight. All I know is that I find myself checking women out and wanting to be with them. I'm lost. I know I need to get out there and explore, but I'm so scared. Help and advice please?
Hmm, that really sucks.
It's hard to tell if someone's gay/bi.
But maybe you should just come out (only if you think your friends would accept it, of course) and you could just meet new people. Like at your work, college or whatever (what do people do when they're 20 anyways?) I'm shure there's a girl outside who's the chosen one for you.
And maybe she's closer than you think.
I don't think someone can tell you you're bi, but you can just think about it. Were you really in love with your boyfriend?
I have told a few of my friends how I've been feeling and of course they've accepted it, probably because I didn't tell them I was gay...which I'm still unsure of.
And yeah, I'm trying to go out and meet new people...but I don't want to go by myself. So a few of my friends might come with me to a gay night at a club, hopefully that actually happens, we'll see.
Was I really in love with my boyfriend? I would like to think so. I mean, he was my first love and no one ever forgets their first love. But after awhile, when I started to have these feelings for girls, I knew that I had to let him go because I wasn't being fair to him.