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 Posted: 2011-06-10 01:33 am
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So I'm a MtFTG and I'm living in a small town currently working and stuck at home. I don't know what to do, how to get started, how I obtain the means to pursue what I want...

One the one hand I could try to move back to SF, but I'd have no job, no actual support, and I'd have no real way of transitioning.

One the other hand I suffer in silence leading a less than content lie.

Oh sometimes I look into the future and see nothingness ahead.

Well, I like to write stories, and poems...Would there be a place on here to share my work?



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 Posted: 2011-06-10 03:22 am
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Hi and Welcome to our community!  You can certainly share your work.  You can post it in the media section or just in the general discussion categories.  Wherever you like!

I figured out I was gay when I was living in Ohio (and about 23) and moved to SF to come out!  It was the best thing I ever did.  I'm not going to say it wasn't scarey - but I survived.  The times were a bit different then in terms of getting work.  I was able to get a job in a law firm within one week.  I was also able to rent a small studio apartment within the first week.  But do be prepared for everything to cost way more than anywhere else (unless your living in NYC).  It would be best to go with a good amount of cash saved up because you need $$ for first/last and cleaning deposits to rent. Try to make arrangements for somewhere to stay when you first arrive.  Maybe an LGBT community center in SF can help you with that.   Anywhere around the Castro district would be fun.  My first apartment was on Church and Market St.  I grew so much and had such a fun time coming out! 

What type of job skills do you have? 

I suggest looking at rentals in SF to get a feel for what it costs and check out the job market.  You can always try the San Francisco Examiner classifieds on-line.  It is cheaper in the east bay but you have to watch out for bad neighborhoods.  If you can, stick with SF cause then you don't really need a car - great transportation system in SF.

Never live a lie - it will eat you alive......  Be loud and proud - and if you have to move away from home then so be it.  It worked for me.  (I do not know what age you are - so my advice assumes you are at least 18).  If not, then be honest with yourself and whatever relatives or friends you feel will be supportive but never, never live a lie.

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 Posted: 2011-06-10 03:23 am
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By the way, what does MtFTG stand for?

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 Posted: 2011-06-10 04:56 am
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I'm transgendered, male to female. I believe that was how it was said to me once.

I live 2 hours out from San Francisco and I am 20. I have no college education, though I would like to return to classes.

I have a car payment in the low $300 and work @ in sales currently only making $3,000+ per month. I am unsure if I can find a job that will pay the same in the city.

http://lgbtcommunityforum.com/view_topic.php?id=222&forum_id=67

I posted my Story

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 Posted: 2011-06-23 01:21 am
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I read your story and really, really liked it!  Living so close to SF you shouldn't have too much of a problem relocating.  You can go up/down for interviews, checking out housing, etc.   What small town is so close to SF?  I don't remember any when I lived there .....

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 Posted: 2011-06-23 01:32 am
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Hrmmm there is San Bruno, Millbrae, South San Francisco, Castro Valley, San Leandro...

I like further now, but still....

I'm not sure who would hire me to do anything that would provide me enough to live off of.



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 Posted: 2011-06-24 12:12 am
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Oh, I see what your saying.  I was thinking smaller towns.  My photography studio use to be in San Leandro. 

SF wages are higher than surrounding areas - by quite a bit.  Depends on what your skills regarding what jobs you can get.  Small apartments and roommates help with the financial situation as well.  You are luck because you can do all your searching before you actually make the move - you are so close....

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Hrmm...

I don't have any real skills to be honest though. I dropped high-school after I had a break-down from the whole TG thing and got my GED.

Started selling cars and I made really good money doing it.

Have some talent with finances, but beyond that I don't know if I'm qualified for anything.



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 Posted: 2011-06-24 01:29 am
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They sell cars in SF - and there is alot of money in SF. You won't know what the possibilities are until you start looking. Just take the first step and see what happens. You are so fortunate that you can come into SF to job hunt and then go back home. The towns you mentioned are all viable places to live (also Oakland and Berkeley) and are cheaper than SF. Alameda has apartments by the water. You just need to take the first step and explore! As you know, school is cheap in CA (such as SF City College) so you can improve your skills while selling cars - something like that. Have fun with it.

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 Posted: 2011-06-24 02:52 am
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Hrmmm...

I'm wonderin...

Maybe I should try...



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